Moral & Social Issues Hardships in Life
Question:
My problem is that I am a victim of continuous problems. I face one after the other difficulty. I do not find any chance for peaceful survival. On the insistence of my wife I even ended up to people like Qadri sahib of Lahore but of course to no avail. I am requesting you to kindly help us. This all started in 1994. My wife was diagnosed and had mastectomy. When she came back home my twelve year old son fainted in the school and turned out to be a victim of brain tumor. Two years of struggles ended with his surgery.
He is fine now. As soon as he came back home my younger daughter who was 11 years old started to have heart problem which turned out to be WPW (a rare heart disease). After her surgery when we took a sigh of relief my mother got burned in Pakistan. I have to rush back to look after her. Before I reached there, she was already died. During my 17 days stay in Pakistan stock market plunged in USA and I lost about 100,000 dollars.
But unfortunately that was not the end of it. Then I got admitted in the hospital for chest pains. And then..... Life goes on. I am just not getting any break. My trust in people is vanishing but fortunately my belief is there as strong as ever. But I need your help. Please guide me through this period of time. It is almost a period of 17 years that I am suffering things one after the other.
Answer:
My dear brother, I cannot even start to think how you have suffered during the past few years and therefore do not feel comfortable to give you any religious advice. However, I want to try my best to assure you that no matter what has happened and what might happen in future, you are in God's hands and subjected to His plans.
There are of course worldly and rational explanations and causes for our sufferings, however a religious person like yourself appreciates that these natural and rational causes are themselves part of a much wider plan that is set by the Almighty.
In commenting on a similar subject, Moiz Amjad has written:
"As a general principle, an individual, according to the Qur'an, may be faced with extreme 'hard times' for any of the following reasons:
1. The person faced with the particular situation is tested with such a situation while others are made to realize the blessings of God and the privileges that they enjoy in life. Such a situation normally is to point out to others the great blessings of God that we tend to take for granted. A normal person suddenly loses his eyesight and is turned into a blind. This extra-ordinary event in the life of one person may point out to others the great blessing of "eyes that see", which we normally tend to ignore in our lives and may also help us realize the duties that are incumbent upon us for enjoying this extra-ordinary privilege in life. On the other hand, the particular individual faced with such a situation is tested for his steadfastness and perseverance in the God's ways. Our hardships, normally, fall into this category. The ideal attitude that we all must aspire to develop is that every time a hardship comes our way, we should consider it an opportunity of success in our ultimate life and pray to God to help us succeed in this test.
2. Sometimes God selects a person, on the basis of His absolute knowledge, to behave as an epitome of gratitude toward God for all those around him. In such cases, the primary objective of putting an individual through an extremely severe situation is to teach others of the correct attitude of thankfulness and gratitude toward their Lord. In this situation, others are made to see the individual's faithful and thankful behavior toward his Creator in a very severe situation and thereby realize the importance of the good things God has given them and also to compare their own behavior with that of the person put in such a severe situation. The basic difference between this situation and the one described in number 1 above is from the particular individual's perspective that is taken through such extra-ordinary situation. In number 1, it is primarily a test for the individual, while in number 2, it is a privilege for the particular individual that he is selected by God for the purpose of teaching others of the right attitude and to act as an example for them. An example of this may be seen in the life of Hadhrat Ayyub (pbuh).
3. To cleanse an individual of the bad deeds that he might - knowingly or unknowingly - have committed in the past. If the person remains steadfast and faithful to his Lord in this cleansing process, all his bad deeds are washed away in the life of this world, which guarantees his success in the life hereafter.
4. To punish an individual for his general attitude of transgression against God in life In such a situation the severe condition is only a preamble for the real punishment that the person shall face in the life hereafter."
(http://www.understanding-islam.com/related/text.aspx?type=question&qid=30)
I would like to add another reason to the above that is only slightly different from number 3, and that is, to cleanse an individual of a haram that is running in the family, even if it is coming from past generations.
Accordingly, no matter how extensive and how sever your pain is, please bear in mind that it is part of the God's plan (related to one of the first three points above, the forth point does not apply to a religious person like you).
It is enough assurance to know that we are in His hands, no matter what. The worry and nervousness should start when we think we are on our own!
It is true that sometimes these extreme difficulties seem to be too much and even unfair to us. However we need to see the whole scenario rather than only part of it. When you staying in a terminal building to catch a flight and go to a beautiful place to stay for ever you would not bother much if the conditions of the terminal building are not very good. You would be more Patience against any bad conditions in the terminal simply because you know that it is only a temporary stay before reaching the main everlasting place. Only those will find it difficult to bear the bad conditions in that terminal who think they need to stay there forever or think there is nothing beyond that for them.
No matter what happens to us in this world, the fact is, it is only a temporary waiting room for the hereafter. If we have this perspective in mind then we will be able to Insha'Allah stand any hardship in this world and be a good example of faith for others.
It is in fact for restating and emphasizing on the above mentioned perspective that the Qur'an describes those who are patient in His path as people who, when facing harsh difficulties in life, say:
(2:156)
Please read the story of Ayyub in the book of Job in the Old Testament that is a helpful aspiration for all, when facing difficulties. Also I suggest you read Ayyub's very short but very effective prayer regularly, as it has been given in the Qur'an:
(21:83)
(Muslim 2:631)
(Sahih Ibn Haban 3:250)
(Masnad Ahned 1:391)
From Bukhari:
- Volume 7, Book 70, Number 544:
- Volume 7, Book 70, Number 550:
- Volume 7, Book 70, Number 547:
- Volume 7, Book 70, Number 548:
- Volume 7, Book 70, Number 555:
- Volume 7, Book 70, Number 560:
- Volume 7, Book 70, Number 579:
I hope this helps.
Abdullah Rahim
31st of March, 2010
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